Okay, so you have decided that you want to be in this lifestyle, or you are already in this lifestyle but you haven't met others like you and you are ready. What do you do now?
There are several places to go that can give you great results depending on the area that you are in. For anyone wanting to begin this type of relationship though, honestly i would tell you to avoid looking for any online long distance Daddy/Mommy/Caregivers, these relationships are very hard to maintain and are extremely hard on littles. For a select few they can be rewarding but i must warn you that you never know who is on the other side of the computer screen and you could be hurt very badly from someone just playing head games.
The best place to start your search for a great community is in your own back yard and by that i mean, start by making a detailed profile on Fetlife.com with a current picture or pictures of yourself. (you can set these to friends only if you are worried about who will see them) Then search for groups in your area and join them. Under the EVENTS tab look for events near me and check out what local events are coming up soon and see if any look like they might be of interest to you. Look for a local Munch or Coffee Time (this is the best place to meet people in a low pressure setting before going out to any "play party").
My best advice to anyone starting out, is to get to know the leaders of the groups, make sure to ask lots of questions. Please remember that it is what they are there for, they are really great at giving out good information and pointing you in the right direction.
i would avoid anyone that tries to separate you from the group, these are usually the ones that are there to prey on the newbies and the ones that you want to avoid. If you are interested in going to a "play party" ask others to see if it has a good reputation for being SSC or RACK safe before going or if any of the members of the group will be there.
Before "playing " with anyone remember to have them vetted by at least three other people, and not just their friends. Talk with people and find out what they honestly think of them and how they treat the people that they play with before engaging in any type of "play" either privately or publicly. You don't want to get hurt either physically, mentally or emotionally by something that you are not ready for. Make sure that if you do decide to engage in "play" that you have a detailed negotiation with whoever you are "playing" with. This will lessen the chances of something going wrong with the scene and you will have a better experience all around.