today lets talk about something that has been weighing heavily on my heart for the last couple of weeks. i have heard from different s-types over and over again how much they sometimes feel like they have to much power in the decision making process of things, i'm not talking about the negotiations, obviously if you are in a relationship you should have done that part already. What i am talking about is the everyday things, like schedules for instance. When you first got together with your s-type you were the one that asked what their schedule was and then told them what your schedule was and when you wanted to get together with them and what you wanted to do.
In many cases this changes over time and the s-type is asked to take over the calendar for the D-type and is now left in "charge" of making all of the plans for the both of you, many times leaving the s-type to feel like they are topping from the bottom, even though this is what you have asked from them. Especially if they are the only one who is making the plans and you are just asking "what are we doing tonight".
You see in doing this the s-type is once again placed in the one position that they did not want to be in, the position that they have asked You to take in their lives. This usually comes after months of being in a relationship with another person that this scenario starts to happen, but when it does it is subtle at first and the s-type doesn't often see it as anything other than helping out at the time. Over time though if it continues and the s-type has to continually be the one making all of the decisions about what you are doing and where you are going it starts to erode away at the little side as well. Putting an extra burden on the s-type to plan out all of your activities takes away from the child like ways of the little, they didn't sign up to be your Daddy/Mommy it was the other way around.
Don't get me wrong here i know that not every dynamic is the same, each one is set up differently this is just an observation that i have noticed recently, maybe it comes down to Dominates becoming complacent or busy, maybe it's that the s-types have taken to much control over the relationship and not let them do what they want, i don't know, what i do know is what i see, and that is the frustration within a lot of s-types who are overwhelmed with so much going on and don't know exactly what to take off their plate. What i am not seeing is a lot of Daddy's/Mommy's stepping up to the plate and planning any fun outings for their littles to have get together's or have play dates and this makes this little sad.